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  How do you deal with depression?

  by BlackWolf in

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  i'm currently going through a bout of depression and my eating disorder has gotten worse.

  ever since my parents actually told me that they are going to kick me out when i turn 18 i've felt kind of hopeless about my life.

  my parents won't take me to the doctor because the psychiatrists won't have my "best interests" aka jw crap in mind, because really that's the root of all my problems.. i'm wondering if any of you guys have any advice with dealing with depression?

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  Dear BlackWolf:

  I hope you will hang in there. Many here have responded with love and encouragement.

  My spouse and I were fanatical and unreasonable with our teenager. When it came to our child doing self-harm, we snapped out of our cult mode and said, "You don't have to be a Witness, just obey the house rules. You don't have to go to the KH anymore." The rebellion stopped and peace and love came into our home.

  Well, that action on our part didn't please the powers that be. But we saved our child and have a wonderful relationship still, 30 years later.

  Hope this helps, though it's from a different vantage point.

  Love, from a grateful father,

  CoCo
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  So Are Inactives officially SHUNNED?

  by minimus in

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  i've read here that inactives are the same as disfellowshipped, treatment wise.

  is that correct or did i misread it??

  thanks......

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  Refusal to associate with certain people works both ways, within or without religious affiliation.

  Brother Knorr told us Bethelites that we should avoid bad association even at Bethel . . . Seems as though something went amiss during the original screening process.

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  This Thing That Was My Mother

  by TimeBandit in

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  this thing that was my mother.

  this thing that was my mother, so withered and blackened now,.

  was once so kind and loving, but things have changed somehow.. remember when you'd hold me, and soothe my childhood fears?.

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  Thank you, TimeBandit, for sharing this. Beautifully expressed.

  Sad poetry, for the time being, is perfectly all right. Been there myself. I'm somewhat more detached from the pain of the past. You'll find a way to deal with it, as many of us have. Of course, in this, the present, we still must confront the reality of WT policies and their hold on our loved ones.

  Kind regards.

  CoCo
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  Besides Beards . . .

  by neat blue dog in

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  beards have been talked about a lot, especially with the recent wt article, but what about other types of non-mustache facial hair, like goatees chinbeards and soul patches?.

  in my own experience i've seen a white young man with big handlebars and a soul patch run mikes, do literature and give talks not too long ago.

  i saw a black older man with a sizeable soul patch as the focus of one shot in a jw.org video about an annual meeting a few years ago.

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  Greetings, Vidiot!

  Oh, now I get it! I'm sorry, too -- I missed your name altogether. If I can ever figure it out between my 2 antiquated computers, I'll post "Jesus," but not at the KH! No payment necessary!

  Best regards.

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  Besides Beards . . .

  by neat blue dog in

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  beards have been talked about a lot, especially with the recent wt article, but what about other types of non-mustache facial hair, like goatees chinbeards and soul patches?.

  in my own experience i've seen a white young man with big handlebars and a soul patch run mikes, do literature and give talks not too long ago.

  i saw a black older man with a sizeable soul patch as the focus of one shot in a jw.org video about an annual meeting a few years ago.

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  Yes, Orphancrow -- someone's perpetual study! I like that.

  When I wrote of its depending on the local elders, I cannot say why one elder would seek me out before meeting and tell me to raise my hand high so that he would see it and, then, call on me.

  A personal agenda?

  Best wishes, Dear.

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  Where Home and Heart Reside

  by compound complex in

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  i am going home, yet not without sorrow;.

  for too long have i been adrift.. there was no place to call my own nor .

  anyone to take me in.. the price i paid for careless days of youth.

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  You're welcome, Matt!

  Thank you for the back story. I'm sorry about the persona non grata element of the story -- the sadly common thread that weaves amongst us all.

  Yes, formatting can be a problem; nonetheless, your words read well.

  Best regards.

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  Besides Beards . . .

  by neat blue dog in

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  beards have been talked about a lot, especially with the recent wt article, but what about other types of non-mustache facial hair, like goatees chinbeards and soul patches?.

  in my own experience i've seen a white young man with big handlebars and a soul patch run mikes, do literature and give talks not too long ago.

  i saw a black older man with a sizeable soul patch as the focus of one shot in a jw.org video about an annual meeting a few years ago.

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  I guess it all depends on the local elders.

  As I wrote before, I have been allowed to comment at meetings although I have a full beard and haven't cut my hair in five years. The latest Memorial was my final meeting.

  It must be disconcerting to some ardent JWs to have a Christendom-styled Jesus (so I've been called) in their midst. Of course, I gave no talks from the platform nor did I go out in service.

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  Where Home and Heart Reside

  by compound complex in

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  i am going home, yet not without sorrow;.

  for too long have i been adrift.. there was no place to call my own nor .

  anyone to take me in.. the price i paid for careless days of youth.

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  Greetings, Matt:

  This is a graphic recollection of an observant child who's become a well-written man. I will reread your words to let them sink in. And read again . . .

  Thank you so much for posting.

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  Where Home and Heart Reside

  by compound complex in

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  i am going home, yet not without sorrow;.

  for too long have i been adrift.. there was no place to call my own nor .

  anyone to take me in.. the price i paid for careless days of youth.

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  That's all right, TB. No need to apologize.

  When I began posting on several different forums so many years ago, worried posters thought I was a suicidal female. I'm a guy with feet firmly planted on the ground. Well, mostly on the ground . . .

  Glad you like the poetry. THANKS!

  CoCo
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  Suicide or Real Freedom? - My Story As One Of Jehovah's Witnesses

  by dubstepped in

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  "sometimes i think the only thing i could do that wouldn't upset someone would be to kill myself.".

  those were the frustrated words of my friend as we stood out in his large yard in the country, just about to enjoy a nice bonfire on a beautiful night.

  what was it that could have been a lesser evil than killing himself?

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  Thank you, dubstepped, for sharing your story. Like some other forum members, I, too, am seeing this for the first time. Strange -- often we fail to see or respond to so many valuable and life-affirming threads.

  I now believe in possibility, but in nothing in particular. I don't have to know anymore. I am worried about controlling what is real today and what I can affect. At one point in my life I held that the Bible was the unerring Word of God. I'm sorry, but if a god wanted to give me a book that would give me the one path toward salvation, he should have made it clearer. That book is full of contradictions and some horrific atrocities performed by people following God's direction, so I just can't believe in it. I also can't believe that we humans are the top of the food chain and that nothing greater than us exists in this vast universe, so I do believe in some sort of "god" or energy or something bigger than us, but I can't tell you if it is benevolent or not. It just is whatever it is, and I'm not worried about it anymore.

  Likewise, when my eyes opened, my shattered faith encompassed disillusionment with both the Society's teachings and the stories of the Bible. What I highlighted from your copied and pasted paragraph above expresses exactly my current sentiments.

  I am not worried . . . I am NOT!

  With gratitude to you and your dear wife,

  CoCo